Okay I was supposed to do this review two days ago(granted I have no deadline who reads this blog, me and well me) but here it goes.
Yes that is a play on an eastwood movie title, and yes I am gonna go through and do my usual what I liked what I didn't like and what was awesome. A few things, this will be the hardest do not give out any spoiler blogs for me ever simply because this movie rocked, rocked like an early 80's metal band, and then went out and tore up the hotel room. Was it perfect no, a few things could have been either further delved into or left out completely and had absolutely no impact on the movie whatsoever.
The glimpses into Tony's dad Howard stark(while some might mistake this as an attempt to link tony to Howard Hughes Tony is Howard Hughes his dad just got the first name) were interesting and yet, I mean its was jumbled, kinda rambly almost like it was thrown in at the last minute. Now yes it seems that Jon was admitting that tony may have hereditarily gotten his alcoholism. And that like many kids we don't know our parents all day like they don't know us. But past the wow this is just what I needed, this is the case breaker(My cousin vinny reference) moment it could have been done better maybe there will be more on the DVD deleted scenes. Continuity wise they get a gig for the Terence Howard to Don Cheadle change, I know you can't control who the studio decides to hire and fire I know that but thats still a gig. Justin Hammer while I love the actor playing him and he played the part well TECHNICALLY Hammer is older then Tony he is between Tony's age and his dad's age. In Essence Justin Hammer was the up and comer in the game while Tony was a kid and Howard was building Stark International into the power house that it was going to become. Hammer always looked at Tony as an upstart not a rival, as an inexperienced brat interfering with his plans of corporate domination.
The age is the only thing I will complain about Hammer would have hired Vanko, would have been naive enough to let Whiplash paint him into a corner, as well as tried to sweet talk his way out of any problems that arose. So too young but otherwise spot on.
For those wondering what this movie's connection to the "iron man timeline is" this is technically linking us to Armor Wars. There was a time when Tony during the height of his alcoholism started running into villians powered by tech made by AIM, Hydra and one other organization that was basically based on Stark Tech, and by stark tech I mean Tony's Iron man Armor. Upon defeating a villian(it was either whiplash or titanium man I forget which and you know what google it, well maybe I will later and edit this post) Tony studying his armor was struck with grief because he realized all the pain caused by that villain was his fault(yes for like a year Tony stark had Peter Parker syndrome "it's all my fault god I have to fix it"). So Tony creates a virus or a device(I forget which it's been retold a few times since and both have been used) that basically completely disables anything based on his tech. Which you know would be okay if Tony hadn't of gone overboard. Any and EVERYTHING based on his tech his was taking out, so he took out the government guards at the vault, he took out super villians, he took out Heroes INCLUDING his good buddy War Machine AKA James Rhodes yes Roady is wearing stark tech(given to him by tony stark) and in his depressed/remorseful state not even his good friend is above his penance.
As for War Machine, they slightly jumped the gun in the telling of how James Rhodes becomes War machine. Because actually James Rhodes was Iron Man before he was War Machine, wait what James Rhodes was Iron Man. Yes a few times when tony was either sick, or unable to put the armor on himself James Rhodes his best friend and confidant would don the armor to either save Tony's butt, deflect suspicion away from Anthony Stark himself as being Iron man, or just come save the day when Tony was not available. There was an interesting occurrence where James Rhodes ran into the Mandarin while in the Iron Man armor and the Mandarin mentioned he always thought his Nemesis Tony Stark was the man under the helmet.
As for War machine I loved everything about how War Machine looked save the missing Missile launcher. Yes all that high tech that tony stark invents and War Machine really does look like a walking flying tank. With that huge Gattling gun on his shoulder, bullets flying from his wrists, yes the whole nine. If the two of them show up yes you know Iron man is going to kick you butt but war machine is the one who makes you wanna change your shorts. And yes armor wars(save Rhodes was fully war machine and tony took a few gattling and chain shots to the tuckus before he disabled his friends armor) did have tony fight against his friend in full armor. So the Two Tony vs Jim Rhodes armor fights were awesome.
This movie is full of hints to future Marvel projects, that I refuse to reveal here. The other Marvel Holy Grail metal is inferred but never mentioned by name, I guess that project has yet to be green lit. Pay close attention to the object tony uses to prop up his particle accelerator. If you see it and wonder whats so special look at the center again and the overall shape.
There are 3 avengers seen in Iron Man 2 and 3 hinted at, to see the third one you have to stay after the credits. For those wondering who the three are: War Machine, Iron man and Black Widow the red head from the trailer in the black suit. Granted that widow doesn't show as much cleavage as her comic book counter part, and her "accessories"/utility belt isn't silver but she is just as good a fighter. Technically widow is a russian Weapon Plus/nick fury super spy attempt. Depends on which timeline or telling you are talking about. She has been said to be highly trained in some and physically enhanced in others whether it be bionically, cybernetically, or "super serum". There are to my flawed memory 4 serums that have created super beings in marvel usually 1 shots save of course the green goblin formula because harry, Norman and one of the later goblin/hobgoblins have all gotten their hands on it. The super soldier serum that was given to cap, the centennial/whatever soldier serum given to fury, and whatever the russians injected into black widow. Because nick fury is actually older then captain america they both fought in WWII cap is still alive due to being frozen in ice fury due to his formula which slowed down the aging process in him and keeps him in pretty much top physical condition.
Now as for the villain(s) yes whiplash is an iron man villian, he does have those arc power "whips" and he did give Tony fits the first time they fought. But like Peter Parker for tony stark the first is the only free one. Because once you smack tony around the first time he goes back to the lab and cooks up an Armor especially made to beat the brakes off you. I wanna say it was nice to see the brief case armor, tony has life 4 of those. Like his DC counter part Tony Stark believes in being prepared, in the Movie it shows you 4 suits on display which are of course the four he wore in the last movie(for those who did not realize the suit from the iron monger fight was not the same as the suit from the tank fight) so yes you had the mark I, the Mark II(soon to become war machine), the Mark III(the first one to sport the Iron man Gold and Red) and the Mark IV. In actuality Tony and Bruce Collect suits like it's going out of style because they fight so many varied villains they never know what they are going to need. The only thing Jon hasn't delved into much is attachments. All the iron man(and even War Machine) suits are modular you can take off, add on and mix and match pieces if the armor you are wearing isn't fully prepared for the fight you are in. Granted this was only the second movie and as of yet tony really hadn't met anyone (before whiplash) who could at least stay in an extended fight with him. Now he has and of course he will be more prepared in the next movie. While Hammer may not in a sense be a "villain" in the sense that he never goes toe to toe with tony on the battlefield he does tend to supply some of tony's villains later in the story line. And yes the Hammeroids(hammer droids) are actual stark enemies too, but yes tony usually beats them up like he did in that fight scene in the trailer.
As for Nick Fury yes I like Samuel L as fury and I like the way he is playing fury: hard nosed, cocky, deceptive, bossy and while respected by some of the big kahunas of the marvel universe he also annoys the hell out of them. The Fury Stark interaction is perfect, Fury respects starks abilities hell most of the tech Fury uses for shield comes from Stark enterprises because it works period. He has known stark was IM for years(yes calls him shell head), has turned his head sometimes when tony has fallen off the wagon but has come to believe tony is a valuable hero. Doesn't stop him from steppin on his toes or spying on him from time to time. Tony respects what fury is and what he does he just can't stop the spoiled playboy in himself sometimes. Tony stark does not make as many weapons as he used to but when he does, he makes them for one Colonel Nick Fury. The shield Helicarrier developed by stark industries, the weapons they use, some of their ships/air craft all stark designs.
Tony Stark and Bruce Banner are the founding members of a few Marvel Teams the first of course being the Defenders, the most memorable being the Avengers. Now as the Avengers movie is due out in either 2012 or 2014 I can't wait to see who else they introduce us to in the next few years.
Yes go see Iron Man 2, go see it a few times, because me and the baby bro are probably heading back this weekend.
Monday, May 10, 2010
Friday, April 30, 2010
Why education should never be financed
I made a statement on twitter the other day :the only things that should be financed are a house and a NEW car. Now I just happened to check my responses and somebody added in education, now while I guess they thought I was shorting education I'm not it should NEVER be financed. The reasoning is simple normally you have 18 years(at least) to prepare for your child's educational funding.
I mean think about it, even before you know if your child is going to go to college you know you have a child, that you would LIKE to go to college, start socking away the cash. Will it take some sacrifice yes, but then if your child's education is important to you then I'm sure you'll believe it's worth it, on top of that you can use the process to teach your child(ren) about savings, and possibly investing. Most peoples problem with paying for education comes in the fact that they always worry about the big chunks late, the earlier you start the less you have to start with. You can start with $100-$150 a month, and no that is not a lot of money 25-37.50 a week you probably blow that going to lunch each week. Now you could put that into a money market account and let that grow over the period of you child's public/private school education up to 12th grade at minimum with no interest compounding that's $20,400-30,600. That's a nice amount of money, as school tuition is constantly getting more expensive thats not 4 years in college but it is at least 1 or 2 depending on the school(or possibly the full tuition at say a specialty school culinary arts, devry, ITT, etc).
Now I said that was without interest, I suck at the interest calculations I would have to basically add up month by month over the span of the 17 years to give you what that would be like with the interest added it. Most of us suck at long term planning because mentally we have a "well that can wait til later attitude", if it's important the planning and saving for it can't. You don't have to do it all today, but you damn sure need to start not only thinking about it but saving for it and formulating a plan for how you're going to make it happen.
Just like you can run and check your bank account to see how much is in it when you wanna splurge and buy something if you have a dream, wish, hope whatever then the second you get that gleam in ya eye you need to put some dollars away for it. If you wanna use some of that growing nest egg to invest and take a chance on a stock growing over that time to help accelerate the value of the funds in the account fine, plenty of books on investing pick one up and be my guest.
But honestly if you have something you want to do, and in your heart you really wanna do it then prepare to do it. If you look into something far enough out that you want and break down how much it will cost you for it, the further out you start the better off you are.
And by the way at the top I said houses and NEW(yes I'm emphasizing new if you finance a used car you are financing someone else's problem that they could either no longer afford or didn't wanna deal with anymore) car, but that's something you should also be saving for. you should walk into the bank, or finance persons office with at least 35% as a down payment again if you know you want something that far out SAVE UP FOR IT. People get stuck in these endless cycles of debt because at the last minute they realize "Oh you know I want one of these too" shit if you dream is home ownership sock some money away, a car sock some money away. The more you have saved to put down on it, the less you owe on it over the time of the loan and the smaller your payments will be.
Lots of people have been sold on the credit, credit, credit ideal and not including saving with that credit. Which is why debt levels are so high and savings rates so low, nothing beats cash, not even a good credit score. Why because your credit score says you SHOULD be able to afford something and can be reasonably expedited to pay off said debt, having the cash for it guarantees that you can afford it and there is either no or very little debt to pay off. Your credit score is your enemy high or low, it just says how much somebody is going to allow you to owe them, be owed don't owe save up for what you want.
I mean think about it, even before you know if your child is going to go to college you know you have a child, that you would LIKE to go to college, start socking away the cash. Will it take some sacrifice yes, but then if your child's education is important to you then I'm sure you'll believe it's worth it, on top of that you can use the process to teach your child(ren) about savings, and possibly investing. Most peoples problem with paying for education comes in the fact that they always worry about the big chunks late, the earlier you start the less you have to start with. You can start with $100-$150 a month, and no that is not a lot of money 25-37.50 a week you probably blow that going to lunch each week. Now you could put that into a money market account and let that grow over the period of you child's public/private school education up to 12th grade at minimum with no interest compounding that's $20,400-30,600. That's a nice amount of money, as school tuition is constantly getting more expensive thats not 4 years in college but it is at least 1 or 2 depending on the school(or possibly the full tuition at say a specialty school culinary arts, devry, ITT, etc).
Now I said that was without interest, I suck at the interest calculations I would have to basically add up month by month over the span of the 17 years to give you what that would be like with the interest added it. Most of us suck at long term planning because mentally we have a "well that can wait til later attitude", if it's important the planning and saving for it can't. You don't have to do it all today, but you damn sure need to start not only thinking about it but saving for it and formulating a plan for how you're going to make it happen.
Just like you can run and check your bank account to see how much is in it when you wanna splurge and buy something if you have a dream, wish, hope whatever then the second you get that gleam in ya eye you need to put some dollars away for it. If you wanna use some of that growing nest egg to invest and take a chance on a stock growing over that time to help accelerate the value of the funds in the account fine, plenty of books on investing pick one up and be my guest.
But honestly if you have something you want to do, and in your heart you really wanna do it then prepare to do it. If you look into something far enough out that you want and break down how much it will cost you for it, the further out you start the better off you are.
And by the way at the top I said houses and NEW(yes I'm emphasizing new if you finance a used car you are financing someone else's problem that they could either no longer afford or didn't wanna deal with anymore) car, but that's something you should also be saving for. you should walk into the bank, or finance persons office with at least 35% as a down payment again if you know you want something that far out SAVE UP FOR IT. People get stuck in these endless cycles of debt because at the last minute they realize "Oh you know I want one of these too" shit if you dream is home ownership sock some money away, a car sock some money away. The more you have saved to put down on it, the less you owe on it over the time of the loan and the smaller your payments will be.
Lots of people have been sold on the credit, credit, credit ideal and not including saving with that credit. Which is why debt levels are so high and savings rates so low, nothing beats cash, not even a good credit score. Why because your credit score says you SHOULD be able to afford something and can be reasonably expedited to pay off said debt, having the cash for it guarantees that you can afford it and there is either no or very little debt to pay off. Your credit score is your enemy high or low, it just says how much somebody is going to allow you to owe them, be owed don't owe save up for what you want.
Monday, April 26, 2010
I guess I shouldn't be surprised
In essence I've been jacked, see that name up top, yeah PRIMALDATA that's mine. It's been mine since that fateful day waaay back in 1995 when I first plucked it out of the air from my own twisted mind. I'm kinda partial to that name, I mean it's been me for over 15 years. Yes I have a real name(which I may put in another blog), but out here on the net I don't use it, IRL(In Real Life) I'm that guy, on here I'm primal. Oh yes I have used a few other names but for the most part if it is me and only me I use primal. I may put the year so you can check and see how long I have been a member of said group(my XBOX 360 name was PRIMALDATA 2005 signifying that I got my 360 in 2005), there is a current one for this year for something else my 360 is busted so now I'm rockin another system.
So doing my google yaself to see where ya at and make sure it's all straight I have found what do you know PRIMALDATA pops up, on a site I have never heard of, joining a clan, for the 360, for a game that I do play, but didn't play at the time. And reading the syntax of the person, I'm wondering if it was innocent(I have shot a lot of people in rainbow 6 vegas, a lot of people my name may have stuck in their heads) or if it was deliberate. I don't know about you but identity theft whether real life or online is never kosher. Because we all tend to put parts(or in my case all, I'm me whether real life or online I just didn't use my name I used my online name) of ourselves into these persona's. I know why I picked that name, I know what it signifies. I know what others think it has signified over the years and when I am asked I do correct them, simply because you are who you are and while if the legend becomes the truth print the legend, if you control what is printed print the truth. Because then you control the story not some writer, or editor.
Yes I'm pissed, I mean who dares use my name? My name did ya ask, what you didn't see me on 360 for a minute a figured hell that was a cool name why not use it. Which just like in real life the answer is simple, it's not your name. You have no claims to that name, you never did. I didn't realize in this digital world that we had to go out there and start registering and copyrighting our names but it seems we just may have to. I mean I'm used to trolls, you embarrass them in a chat room, a news group(on twitter) wherever and they decide to parody your name and use it for their own purposes. Usually said purposes are the smearing of your good name by having folks report you, because as far as they can tell you did them wrong.
A name like mine the normal trick depending on how I have it spelled on the site is to spell it PRIMA1DATA but lower case so that that 1 looks like the l like so prima1data or do it in all caps but with the first I being a lowercase l like so PRlMALDATA the human eye rarely picks up the difference. And of course since your probably pissed your not gonna wanna hear me claim I never said a word to you. And most moderators or quick with the ban hammer and are lazy when it comes to checkin up on those things.
So there is a gamer out there using my moniker to play shooters just like I do, whether or not we have to have an argument about my name we shall see, I hope not I hope that if it was in omage he will switch it to a close translation or else that we can come to some civil understanding of him NOT USING MY NAME. Not to be rude but, I've been using it longer and personally don't want to share it. I've only used the translation once and personally he can have it. I want me though because thats me, it's a second skin who I log into when I enter the digital world, and I'd like to think it stays that way
So doing my google yaself to see where ya at and make sure it's all straight I have found what do you know PRIMALDATA pops up, on a site I have never heard of, joining a clan, for the 360, for a game that I do play, but didn't play at the time. And reading the syntax of the person, I'm wondering if it was innocent(I have shot a lot of people in rainbow 6 vegas, a lot of people my name may have stuck in their heads) or if it was deliberate. I don't know about you but identity theft whether real life or online is never kosher. Because we all tend to put parts(or in my case all, I'm me whether real life or online I just didn't use my name I used my online name) of ourselves into these persona's. I know why I picked that name, I know what it signifies. I know what others think it has signified over the years and when I am asked I do correct them, simply because you are who you are and while if the legend becomes the truth print the legend, if you control what is printed print the truth. Because then you control the story not some writer, or editor.
Yes I'm pissed, I mean who dares use my name? My name did ya ask, what you didn't see me on 360 for a minute a figured hell that was a cool name why not use it. Which just like in real life the answer is simple, it's not your name. You have no claims to that name, you never did. I didn't realize in this digital world that we had to go out there and start registering and copyrighting our names but it seems we just may have to. I mean I'm used to trolls, you embarrass them in a chat room, a news group(on twitter) wherever and they decide to parody your name and use it for their own purposes. Usually said purposes are the smearing of your good name by having folks report you, because as far as they can tell you did them wrong.
A name like mine the normal trick depending on how I have it spelled on the site is to spell it PRIMA1DATA but lower case so that that 1 looks like the l like so prima1data or do it in all caps but with the first I being a lowercase l like so PRlMALDATA the human eye rarely picks up the difference. And of course since your probably pissed your not gonna wanna hear me claim I never said a word to you. And most moderators or quick with the ban hammer and are lazy when it comes to checkin up on those things.
So there is a gamer out there using my moniker to play shooters just like I do, whether or not we have to have an argument about my name we shall see, I hope not I hope that if it was in omage he will switch it to a close translation or else that we can come to some civil understanding of him NOT USING MY NAME. Not to be rude but, I've been using it longer and personally don't want to share it. I've only used the translation once and personally he can have it. I want me though because thats me, it's a second skin who I log into when I enter the digital world, and I'd like to think it stays that way
Thursday, March 25, 2010
Wow over 2 months
I've been busy, I don't mean oh I've just been laying around goofing off no I have actually been busy. Most nights I get home get a bite try to relax for a sec and off I go, tonight not so much.
I hit 10k on twitter and kinda disappeared, again BUSY. Quite a few things I wanna touch on(wouldn't mind touching on a few people either) but while I have wanted to blog, have had subject matter to blog one I don't have the follower base on this one(the non cussing randomosity does not come as freely as the cussing randomosity does) Plus my mind has been on other much more important(to me) things.
Luckily things have come up smelling kind of rosey, Sometimes just getting news is good news to hell with whether it's the news you wanted or not.
So hi again it's primal I am still around, and no I have not been blogging anywhere, period. I need to fix that, like seriously but we shall see
I hit 10k on twitter and kinda disappeared, again BUSY. Quite a few things I wanna touch on(wouldn't mind touching on a few people either) but while I have wanted to blog, have had subject matter to blog one I don't have the follower base on this one(the non cussing randomosity does not come as freely as the cussing randomosity does) Plus my mind has been on other much more important(to me) things.
Luckily things have come up smelling kind of rosey, Sometimes just getting news is good news to hell with whether it's the news you wanted or not.
So hi again it's primal I am still around, and no I have not been blogging anywhere, period. I need to fix that, like seriously but we shall see
Friday, January 8, 2010
WHy I wouldn't recommend being a nice guy/good man
There is absolutely no benefit in it. Let's be honest most women are the queens of the listen to what I say don't pay attention to what I am actually doing mindset. I mean from personal experience most who know me will admit yes I am a good guy, no that is not to say pushover yes I can be overly opinionated, strong minded, picky and determined(trying to find a way to say butt hole in a nice way to stay within the guidelines of the blog). I am still a good man though never cheated in my life, I go out of my way to help you hell sometimes out of my way, I am loyal to a fault, and as long as your with me you don't have to worry about being scared that I won't be in your corner.
And all that and 3 bucks might get me a cup of coffee on a saturday night ALONE. Why is this, because most women while to "protect their image" will claim that they are looking for a guy with my general characteristics I'm not who they are looking for. Now I'm not the handsomest cat on the planet, or the tallest(I'm 5'10 so I'm average height), I won't deny that I have added a good 50 pounds since high school, but I know I'm not the ugliest cat and I know as long as I feel you are worthy there is no such thing as me being a tight wad. I may not throw my money in everybody's direction but I will spend whatever on a cause or person who I feel is a worthwhile investment, period. I mean lets be honest, there are a lot of guys out here like me, intelligent, hard working, compassionate, kind, understanding and humble. As I have said before the names for us are usually Herb, Cornball, Punk, Square, and Lame. The reasons are simple we believe in looking deeper then just ya bra size and your measurements and believe that you deserve to be respected if you have earned it.
Most guys like me feel that if I'm with a woman I think is beautiful and she loves me I am the luckiest man on the planet, I'm not trying to run out and prove I can get 50 women just like you I'm trying to find ways to spend more time with you and maximize the memories. What good is that I guess I mean if your not the top choice of a guy with a harem I guess that ain good enough. It appears that most women would rather have a guy string them along for years because he makes their girlfriends jealous(or wet cause he may just be with you because you and your crew of friends he is planning to hit are pretty) then be with somebody who actually wants to share the rest of their lives with them. Oh I know "successful" women can't find a man, no while some of these women MIGHT be successful some of them are overstating their station and current value. Not only that but they can't offer half of what they are asking for so really how you expect to be given a home run when you may only be giving a double is beyond me ie how you expect to get someone who will fulfill your wildest dreams when you may not even be able to meet that persons expectations halfway is foolish and immature.
I know I often fight with women on this subject for a simple reason, you want me to take you seriously as an individual yet you want to lump me into a group with your ex, some dude who you gave the time of day and wasn't worthy of your time, or the other "top choices" you decide to deal with but are constantly leaving you wanting for more. As has often been said the common denominator going forward in any relationship you are involved in IS YOU. Thats right ladies if you can NEVER find a man that meets your qualifications sit down and figure out if you meet your own qualifications.
Most relationships are about balance and give and take. While the "classic" role definition may not be necessary role definition is necessary. If you make more fine, you make more but if you don't want him rubbing your nose in how much more then you he makes, and how he is big time and your small potatoes remember that when your in the big dog position. If you don't want to cook and he doesn't have a problem with it you better have something you can bring to the table in it's place, make a mean martini, love the same team as he does something. Most women fall into a trap of they have a set resume they want their man to meet up with yet when it comes time to see what dude wants "well why can't he just accept me for me" and the answer is simple "because you want him to live up to your expectations". And that isn't a bad thing, or a petty thing at all that is as long as you can reciprocate.
If you like long walks in the park, quiet evenings, and a foot massage after a long day when he talks about wanting to go to a ball game even if it's in the snow you better wrap ya behind up and go with him. If he is willing to sit through a chick flick, you better go see at least one action movie or comedy. If while you know you want him close you know you want girl time, if you expect him to trust you until otherwise proven you better trust him. Because honestly the only person you are showing is untrustworthy is yourself, yeah I said it if your saying basically that when out of your sight he would cheat the only way you could think that way is if out of his sight you are doing stuff you know he wouldn't like. And don't present some ideal woman you think he wants, be willing to find a man who loves the real you flaws and all. Somebody who you ain got to worry about taking your mask off and him feeling betrayed. If a man can't like you for who you are he isn't worth your time anyway, ever wonder how guys can constantly get told no yet continue to ask women out. Simple we know when we find the right one it will be magical(if we're looking for the right one, if we're just looking for draws it will still be magic just for a shorter period of time, what would you rather I lied to you? Too bad I ain got time for that).
All this being said who still gets the majority of the phone numbers? Who when you ask them are women constantly making excuses for why they date instead of making excuses as to why maybe you just aren't there type? And it's kinda funny because many of the reasons given if a guy were to turn it around on a woman on she would be pissed. Because it has nothing to do with her and everything to do with what you think she will be like because of how she looks, and that is the same way she's looking at Mr. Nice guy. Because he isn't disrespectful he must not be strong, if you think about it though what takes more strength pushing people around so you don't have to listen to them or finding a way to get along and work with them even if you might disagree? Yet not realizing it is a condemnation of themselves women will complain oh well I will just walk all over him, yeah um that isn't a fault on his part if your like that you need to go work on you. Patience is the virtue not an overblown sense of self.
Well bad boys know how to "do it better" yeah okay, if you still ain getting off and he has a long list of things you want to try that he don't is it that he does it better or that he just takes you more forcefully and for that few moments he's there it's raw passion yet your still not fulfilled. Sometimes you have to respect that it takes time to learn what your partner does and does not like, just like it takes time to learn what you like. And if you are unwilling to show that person your probably don't want to be fulfilled, I'm just saying.
Oh yeah nice guys are too shy, well actually a real nice guy is trying to get to know you first, before he goes all out and lets you in he wants to make sure you are worth the time he is gonna dedicate to you, and yes I said dedicate. Because those bad boys who are running their mouths usually forget about you once they get what they want, I mean how often do you complain about a nice guy not calling you back and checking to see how your day is? I mean yes your still going to argue doesn't matter who you are in a relationship with you are gonna have a disagreement and you need to. You have to see if you can work it out with someone when you disagree maybe your right maybe he's right but right ain gonna keep you warm at night. Nor will it hold you as well as the other person will so you have to be willing to come to an agreement and stick to it. You have to be willing to weather a storm or two together to see how you are gonna deal with the long haul.
I know I know it's a lot to think about, but then again if you want the best how are you just gonna walk in the door and get it without doing any research yes if you blind fold a monkey and give him a dart sooner or later he will land on the name Tiffany, Saks, BMW, or Mercedes but wouldn't you rather take you time and find it yourself and save a lot of time, hassle and heart break?
And all that and 3 bucks might get me a cup of coffee on a saturday night ALONE. Why is this, because most women while to "protect their image" will claim that they are looking for a guy with my general characteristics I'm not who they are looking for. Now I'm not the handsomest cat on the planet, or the tallest(I'm 5'10 so I'm average height), I won't deny that I have added a good 50 pounds since high school, but I know I'm not the ugliest cat and I know as long as I feel you are worthy there is no such thing as me being a tight wad. I may not throw my money in everybody's direction but I will spend whatever on a cause or person who I feel is a worthwhile investment, period. I mean lets be honest, there are a lot of guys out here like me, intelligent, hard working, compassionate, kind, understanding and humble. As I have said before the names for us are usually Herb, Cornball, Punk, Square, and Lame. The reasons are simple we believe in looking deeper then just ya bra size and your measurements and believe that you deserve to be respected if you have earned it.
Most guys like me feel that if I'm with a woman I think is beautiful and she loves me I am the luckiest man on the planet, I'm not trying to run out and prove I can get 50 women just like you I'm trying to find ways to spend more time with you and maximize the memories. What good is that I guess I mean if your not the top choice of a guy with a harem I guess that ain good enough. It appears that most women would rather have a guy string them along for years because he makes their girlfriends jealous(or wet cause he may just be with you because you and your crew of friends he is planning to hit are pretty) then be with somebody who actually wants to share the rest of their lives with them. Oh I know "successful" women can't find a man, no while some of these women MIGHT be successful some of them are overstating their station and current value. Not only that but they can't offer half of what they are asking for so really how you expect to be given a home run when you may only be giving a double is beyond me ie how you expect to get someone who will fulfill your wildest dreams when you may not even be able to meet that persons expectations halfway is foolish and immature.
I know I often fight with women on this subject for a simple reason, you want me to take you seriously as an individual yet you want to lump me into a group with your ex, some dude who you gave the time of day and wasn't worthy of your time, or the other "top choices" you decide to deal with but are constantly leaving you wanting for more. As has often been said the common denominator going forward in any relationship you are involved in IS YOU. Thats right ladies if you can NEVER find a man that meets your qualifications sit down and figure out if you meet your own qualifications.
Most relationships are about balance and give and take. While the "classic" role definition may not be necessary role definition is necessary. If you make more fine, you make more but if you don't want him rubbing your nose in how much more then you he makes, and how he is big time and your small potatoes remember that when your in the big dog position. If you don't want to cook and he doesn't have a problem with it you better have something you can bring to the table in it's place, make a mean martini, love the same team as he does something. Most women fall into a trap of they have a set resume they want their man to meet up with yet when it comes time to see what dude wants "well why can't he just accept me for me" and the answer is simple "because you want him to live up to your expectations". And that isn't a bad thing, or a petty thing at all that is as long as you can reciprocate.
If you like long walks in the park, quiet evenings, and a foot massage after a long day when he talks about wanting to go to a ball game even if it's in the snow you better wrap ya behind up and go with him. If he is willing to sit through a chick flick, you better go see at least one action movie or comedy. If while you know you want him close you know you want girl time, if you expect him to trust you until otherwise proven you better trust him. Because honestly the only person you are showing is untrustworthy is yourself, yeah I said it if your saying basically that when out of your sight he would cheat the only way you could think that way is if out of his sight you are doing stuff you know he wouldn't like. And don't present some ideal woman you think he wants, be willing to find a man who loves the real you flaws and all. Somebody who you ain got to worry about taking your mask off and him feeling betrayed. If a man can't like you for who you are he isn't worth your time anyway, ever wonder how guys can constantly get told no yet continue to ask women out. Simple we know when we find the right one it will be magical(if we're looking for the right one, if we're just looking for draws it will still be magic just for a shorter period of time, what would you rather I lied to you? Too bad I ain got time for that).
All this being said who still gets the majority of the phone numbers? Who when you ask them are women constantly making excuses for why they date instead of making excuses as to why maybe you just aren't there type? And it's kinda funny because many of the reasons given if a guy were to turn it around on a woman on she would be pissed. Because it has nothing to do with her and everything to do with what you think she will be like because of how she looks, and that is the same way she's looking at Mr. Nice guy. Because he isn't disrespectful he must not be strong, if you think about it though what takes more strength pushing people around so you don't have to listen to them or finding a way to get along and work with them even if you might disagree? Yet not realizing it is a condemnation of themselves women will complain oh well I will just walk all over him, yeah um that isn't a fault on his part if your like that you need to go work on you. Patience is the virtue not an overblown sense of self.
Well bad boys know how to "do it better" yeah okay, if you still ain getting off and he has a long list of things you want to try that he don't is it that he does it better or that he just takes you more forcefully and for that few moments he's there it's raw passion yet your still not fulfilled. Sometimes you have to respect that it takes time to learn what your partner does and does not like, just like it takes time to learn what you like. And if you are unwilling to show that person your probably don't want to be fulfilled, I'm just saying.
Oh yeah nice guys are too shy, well actually a real nice guy is trying to get to know you first, before he goes all out and lets you in he wants to make sure you are worth the time he is gonna dedicate to you, and yes I said dedicate. Because those bad boys who are running their mouths usually forget about you once they get what they want, I mean how often do you complain about a nice guy not calling you back and checking to see how your day is? I mean yes your still going to argue doesn't matter who you are in a relationship with you are gonna have a disagreement and you need to. You have to see if you can work it out with someone when you disagree maybe your right maybe he's right but right ain gonna keep you warm at night. Nor will it hold you as well as the other person will so you have to be willing to come to an agreement and stick to it. You have to be willing to weather a storm or two together to see how you are gonna deal with the long haul.
I know I know it's a lot to think about, but then again if you want the best how are you just gonna walk in the door and get it without doing any research yes if you blind fold a monkey and give him a dart sooner or later he will land on the name Tiffany, Saks, BMW, or Mercedes but wouldn't you rather take you time and find it yourself and save a lot of time, hassle and heart break?
Sunday, December 27, 2009
Okay the day has passed so let me do this dang blog
Yes I am officially 35, 2009 has been quite an interesting year. I've changed addresses again(what is it with me and not staying in the same place for a full damn decade, going back over my history I have always moved at least once in a decade and this decade I have been an over achiever might get into that around new years), I know for reasons of saving money I am staying with family but they got caught up like a lot of folks in the mortgage crisis, so we had to move. Oh well life happens. The business has grown so while I have been in memphis longer then I had originally planned I am making progress on that goal at least. I have made two trips to atlanta this year, I met some great fellow bloggers the first trip this trip I spent 3 holidays with my wife(okay I am spending, spent our anniversary, spent my birthday then of course christmas, having a christmas eve birthday has it's perks and will spend new years), we've had fun.
Got some necessary items for the home and have been enjoying each others company. I would brag on what I have gotten for christmas but I have been robbed twice on this on so joyous holiday so I know to keep it shut, we didn't but a lot this year was about spending time together. I guess I have done okay, I mean I haven't done great this year. Let's see I'm in a payment agreement with Dewey, Cheatum and howe I mean it's comical, though the best part of the comedy is with all of their wicked ways they ain getting over on nobody but themselves. I need to renew my license, it expired the on my birthday. I have to go to court for an accident I was in when I get back. As has already been stated I need a new laptop, so I will also be chronicalling that journey over the coming months both on here and possibly on ply. I'll give the Laptop name and probably model number, a few of it's features what I like and what I don't like. Right now I'm leaning towards a Vaio mainly because I like Sony products (except for the PS3 still don't own one yet) and I want one with a blu ray player in it and it seems to come standard with Vaio's. I digress.
09 has been an interesting year for me, Have learned a lot got me a crackberry been enjoying the hell out of that. I've done more travelling around the midsouth, started to exercise a little bit need to get on that a whole llt more though. Hmm I mean usually I do these blogs the day of my birthday but with my laptop being dead well it wasn't that easy. So this is my attempt at catching up, I should also state that while I have blogged a few times on the Wii it isn't as easy or as user friendly as a laptop or desktop. Desktop I have in memphis laptop has died here so for now I am without.
Got some necessary items for the home and have been enjoying each others company. I would brag on what I have gotten for christmas but I have been robbed twice on this on so joyous holiday so I know to keep it shut, we didn't but a lot this year was about spending time together. I guess I have done okay, I mean I haven't done great this year. Let's see I'm in a payment agreement with Dewey, Cheatum and howe I mean it's comical, though the best part of the comedy is with all of their wicked ways they ain getting over on nobody but themselves. I need to renew my license, it expired the on my birthday. I have to go to court for an accident I was in when I get back. As has already been stated I need a new laptop, so I will also be chronicalling that journey over the coming months both on here and possibly on ply. I'll give the Laptop name and probably model number, a few of it's features what I like and what I don't like. Right now I'm leaning towards a Vaio mainly because I like Sony products (except for the PS3 still don't own one yet) and I want one with a blu ray player in it and it seems to come standard with Vaio's. I digress.
09 has been an interesting year for me, Have learned a lot got me a crackberry been enjoying the hell out of that. I've done more travelling around the midsouth, started to exercise a little bit need to get on that a whole llt more though. Hmm I mean usually I do these blogs the day of my birthday but with my laptop being dead well it wasn't that easy. So this is my attempt at catching up, I should also state that while I have blogged a few times on the Wii it isn't as easy or as user friendly as a laptop or desktop. Desktop I have in memphis laptop has died here so for now I am without.
Sunday, December 20, 2009
Glutton for punishment
Let's be honest you're not sitting here reading this right now so why sit here and type it out. I mean I don't give this blog pub So while I have a minor following in other places where people might respond as of this point on this blog I'm the sound of a tree falling in the middle of the forest. So why waste the time typing this one out while my laptop is fried? Simple because I wanna see how hard it would be to blog from this Wii for right now. Yup I am typing this blog from Wii internet channel, trying to see how hard it would be and what it would take to get it done. That way if I do decide to go ahead and blog on my more established blog that folks are probably wondering if I died on or if I am just having too much fun on vacation to be bothered to respond, I might try to blog there. But some place always has to be the guinea pig, and yes today this time, blogger/blogspot is that test subject.
Now I will admit it is slightly weird not being able to see more then a line at a time is SOMEWHAT messing up my flow. I mean I admit to having diarhea of the keys on my best day but when I can't see how long the paragraph has gotten or how far I have allowed the sentence to run, yup puts me at a slight disadvantage. Plus no mouse interaction nor other minor functions that I have gotten so used to on my laptop and desktop, no auto spell check, I actually would have to go back through the whole blog to edit(yea yea call me mildly lazy), I can't cut and paste(did not realize how much I like that ability til now). SO if I do decide to ply it, man I got to be ready for war, kind of reminds me of typing up my reports in high school before I got a PC or where had a reliable computer lab handy. MAAAAAAAAAYNE the amount of correction tape I used to run through, and the pages I would have to retype when I missed words or letters. Can I tell you whippersnappers something thank the baby jesus(yeah yeah I did watch talledega nights shoot me now as much as I complain about the stupidity of that movie) that you have PC's everywhere that are mostly user friendly. Because the ease that yall have it now, cutting, pasting, selecting whole lines or hell being able to read the entire presentation before either e-mailing it, or printing it out. Whew I would probably be my english teachers favorite student presentation wise anyway if I had a PC of todays quality back in the early 90's.
I mean yes I happen to type at a decent rate, but even typing at a decent rate doesn't save you from a mistake or two when it's on the paper(like say the 3 times I just hit ; instead of ' or the b's I hit trying to type instead).
Now I don't blame my problems I am noticing so far on opera hell for what it was probably planned for, this is working out swimmingly, but I will say this is an interesting experience that depending may cause me to wait til the new year to get a new laptop when wifey has agreed to let me spend a little more dough.
I think I will buy a Laptop in the $600-$800 range(I can't use the end button yall gonna make me cuss and this is my Parental Unit friendly blog, and by parental unit I mean my parents I don't curse in front of them unless one slips out) a couple of nice sony, dell and toshiba offerings in that range. I mean I like my acer it was a great laptop and for the last 2 years has served me quite well but a dead fan is a dead fan, I could probably steal one from another acer or hell stick my hard drive in one of the other acer laptops laying around the house but I need a laptop with windows 7 on it any way.
Oh well decisions decisions but I think I should have typed enough No I am not gonna try to put any HTML in here, no reason to try and fry wifey's Wii. If this looks alright maybe I'll log into multiply and talk to the family.
Toodles I hope every one is having a great holiday season. I don't know if I will do my birthday blog here or on ply since yahoo 360 decided it no longer wanted to be in the social networking game(even though that site rocked)
Now I will admit it is slightly weird not being able to see more then a line at a time is SOMEWHAT messing up my flow. I mean I admit to having diarhea of the keys on my best day but when I can't see how long the paragraph has gotten or how far I have allowed the sentence to run, yup puts me at a slight disadvantage. Plus no mouse interaction nor other minor functions that I have gotten so used to on my laptop and desktop, no auto spell check, I actually would have to go back through the whole blog to edit(yea yea call me mildly lazy), I can't cut and paste(did not realize how much I like that ability til now). SO if I do decide to ply it, man I got to be ready for war, kind of reminds me of typing up my reports in high school before I got a PC or where had a reliable computer lab handy. MAAAAAAAAAYNE the amount of correction tape I used to run through, and the pages I would have to retype when I missed words or letters. Can I tell you whippersnappers something thank the baby jesus(yeah yeah I did watch talledega nights shoot me now as much as I complain about the stupidity of that movie) that you have PC's everywhere that are mostly user friendly. Because the ease that yall have it now, cutting, pasting, selecting whole lines or hell being able to read the entire presentation before either e-mailing it, or printing it out. Whew I would probably be my english teachers favorite student presentation wise anyway if I had a PC of todays quality back in the early 90's.
I mean yes I happen to type at a decent rate, but even typing at a decent rate doesn't save you from a mistake or two when it's on the paper(like say the 3 times I just hit ; instead of ' or the b's I hit trying to type instead).
Now I don't blame my problems I am noticing so far on opera hell for what it was probably planned for, this is working out swimmingly, but I will say this is an interesting experience that depending may cause me to wait til the new year to get a new laptop when wifey has agreed to let me spend a little more dough.
I think I will buy a Laptop in the $600-$800 range(I can't use the end button yall gonna make me cuss and this is my Parental Unit friendly blog, and by parental unit I mean my parents I don't curse in front of them unless one slips out) a couple of nice sony, dell and toshiba offerings in that range. I mean I like my acer it was a great laptop and for the last 2 years has served me quite well but a dead fan is a dead fan, I could probably steal one from another acer or hell stick my hard drive in one of the other acer laptops laying around the house but I need a laptop with windows 7 on it any way.
Oh well decisions decisions but I think I should have typed enough No I am not gonna try to put any HTML in here, no reason to try and fry wifey's Wii. If this looks alright maybe I'll log into multiply and talk to the family.
Toodles I hope every one is having a great holiday season. I don't know if I will do my birthday blog here or on ply since yahoo 360 decided it no longer wanted to be in the social networking game(even though that site rocked)
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